Ask Maya: Self Care vs. Self Absorption

Ask Maya: Self Care vs. Self Absorption

Dear Maya,

How do you stop putting everyone else’s needs and happiness before your own, yet still be considered a caring person/mom?

“Selfish” in Seattle

Dear “Selfish” in Seattle,

I wish I had a magic solution for this one, but the truth is that there’s not much you can do to make sure that others consider you a caring person or mom. No matter how hard you work or how much you give, others may still judge you harshly any time your desires come into conflict with theirs. So you’re better off deciding for yourself what’s self care and what’s self absorption and then developing the confidence to shake off negative opinions. In my experience, most mothers (working or not) lean heavily into the over-guilt, under-self-care side of the equation.

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#GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso


 A quick read, “#GIRLBOSS” aims to inspire by sharing lessons of Sophia Amoruso’s meteoric rise from anarchist “freegan” wanderer to founding CEO of the Nasty Gal clothing company. “In the same way that for the past seven years people have projected themselves into the looks … Read More


Style Weekly 40 under 40 2014

Style Weekly 40 under 40 2014

Shaka and I were named to Style Weekly’s 2014 40 Under 40 List for our advocacy and service in the Richmond area. I’m honored to be listed among such dynamic leaders, who are working to advance a variety of important causes. The diversity of the honorees inspires me. It … Read More


Off the Sidelines by Kirsten Gillibrand

Off the Sidelines by Kirsten Gillibrand

Part-memoir, part-playbook, Senator Kirsten Gillibrand’s “Off the Sidelines: Raise Your Voice, Change the World” is a refreshingly practical addition to the women’s empowerment shelf, especially for women who aspire to public service. True to mission, the book even ends with … Read More

Advice and Inspiration for Smart Women

What do women really want? Trust me, it’s not “balance.”

This blog offers a daily exploration of the varied, determined, sometimes misguided, but unfailingly human ways that women pursue meaning and happiness. Peruse the eclectic mix of advice, interviews, trend spotting and social commentary, then let me know what you think.

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Maya Smart